Breaking the Cycle of Abuse

Let’s face it, we all have our fair share of traumas, most commonly because of something our parents did. Yes, our very own parents. While most parents mean well, there are some who may not know how to raise a child in a loving or nurturing environment. They can be stubborn, unwilling to listen, and would even disregard their children’s feelings. 

Oftentimes, these types of parents grew up in households with parents who were similarly unaffectionate or disconnected from them. They most likely didn’t receive the kind of love and care that can also lead them to reciprocate the same for their own children.

In this episode, I talk about how trauma is passed down from generation to generation, as well as ways to successfully break this cycle.

Healing Points of This Episode: 

• Don’t involve yourself with someone or something that doesn’t want or need you.
• There’s no need to please everyone, you just need to focus on yourself and the people who are important to you.  
• Everyone is responsible for their own, you don’t have to feel guilty about not doing a certain thing for them. 

Words of Healing

• It is not your responsibility to convince other people of your worth. Your responsibility is to know your worth and value and keep that standard set. 
• We don’t tell women to calm down, that was his first mistake. 
• If you only have the capacity to speak to those people or to perform acts of service for people that you feel that reciprocity, don't feel guilty about not giving it to everyone. You’re not responsible for everyone’s needs. 
• Remember your goodness as a person isn't based on how much you give in relationships and it isn't selfish to set limits on people who keep taking and taking until you run dry. 
• You can't control what they're going to do. They're going to try to see what they can get away with and who they can get it away with. You are not that person anymore. You are not there to accept the breadcrumbs. 

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Resource Mentioned

• Adult Children by Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C Gibson
• How To Avoid Falling In Love with a Jerk by John Van Epp