My Healing Village

Choosing Faith Over Fear | Dr. Frank Ortega

• Regina Marie • Season 1 • Episode 5

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Fear and faith cannot coexist in our hearts at the same time. – Neil Andersen, American Religious Leader

Survivors of abuse and violence may have experienced different kinds of fear that could range from mild to paralyzing. It is an unavoidable emotion that can be triggered by our experiences and circumstances. Subsequently, our fears can dictate our decisions, behaviors, and perspectives. 

While it is easy to recognize faith as the other end of the spectrum opposite to fear, some people tend to overlook the fact that faith should be developed and nurtured from within. Especially for those who have been enduring the fright and horrors of abuse, it may take some time to realize how much faith it would take to pull one’s self out of that dark place, let alone have enough courage to overcome one’s fears. That is why we have to constantly remind ourselves that indeed, fear and faith cannot coexist. 

In this episode, Dr. Frank Ortega – the founder of One Percent Divorce Recovery Coaching – explains how our deep desire for change can fuel our faith and motivate us to claim our right to fulfillment in life. Moreover, he distinguishes between healthy and unhealthy fears; and how we can use this knowledge to our advantage so that our pains and fears can train us in an empowering way. I am excited for you to hear more about it and I hope that my conversation with Coach Frank will enlighten and inspire you as much as it did for me!

Healing Points of This Episode:

  • The pain we feel can train us and dictate how we navigate life – it can either train us in an empowering or disempowering way. 
  • Faith comes by hearing the Word of God.
  • When we speak life into people and share our experiences, faith begins to build up inside of them.

Words of Healing:

  • You have to be your own best friend. You have to be your own superhero.  – Regina Marie
  • It doesn't matter what path you take if you don't know where you're going. – quoted by Regina Marie from Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll
  • The best way that I can classify it whenever it's an unhealthy fear is [when] I'm just projecting, and I am refusing to risk. And because of that, I'm abandoning my right to fulfillment in life. – Frank Ortega
  • Desire is the number one motivator in humans. In anything that we do – you see a human who's done something incredible, there was a deep, deep desire; you've seen somebody who's gotten through like the worst things in the world, there was a deep, deep desire behind it. – Frank Ortega

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https://docs.google.com/document/d/1ir1-pnd6J_zLIVXhZecIpEc79lcUh5FLCFmlZJO-aY8/edit#

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